We all do things we are ashamed of, that hurt people and that, in turn, hurt us. We all say things we don’t mean and we turn our backs on those who have assisted us, and continue to asisst us in our times of need–which are, incidentally, often our times of lashing out and meanness. But these actions and behaviours are not the true tests of our character; that comes after the fact, after we have discovered how deeply we have wounded someone, or realized our inability to be thankful and loving. When we know what we should do and do not do it: that is the denegration of our character, not the unkind statement or the hurtful acts alone. When we humble ourselves and admit our wrongdoing, ask forgiveness, and step back into difficult task of being human.