Many of us enjoy seeing the latest trends off the runway – oversized coats, statement accessories, etc. We all secretly dream of having a closet full of designer labels and couture gowns.
Hélas ? The realities of being human get in the way.
To stay fashionable without the headache, one needs to cultivate a sense of personal style.
What is personal style ?
Personal style is your best uniform designed to always make you look chic regardless of the trends. In a way it is like your personal brand except that you are not particularly interested in any buyers.
To develop personal style you need to follow these steps:
#1 Define your best face
Stand in the mirror and identify your 3 best features from the neck up. Is it your hair, eyes, lips, skin, neck, etc ?
Yes, you can have more than 3 but the point is not to overwhelm people with your beauty but to cultivate style – now focus.
Once you’ve identified these 3 features, you will want to highlight them. This means that everyday, these are the 3 features that will stand out when people see you. These will be your calling card.
Of course, the secret trick to all of this is balance. When highlighting your triple threat areas, decide which one will play lead and which two will play supporting roles.
This harmony is called your best face.
For example, my best 3 features are: hair, eyes and lips.
To define my best face every morning, i start first with grooming my statement hair. Once my hair is complete, i move to my 2 supporting features: eyes and lips.
And on days where my hair is cast to a supporting role, I can choose between the other two characters depending on the look (re: mood) of the day.
Melanie Laurent serves her best face: Hair, Eyes & Lips
#2 Accept your body and dress accordingly
Stop dieting right now and accept that this is who you are… Seriously, stop !
Yes, we can all agree that our stomach, hips or thighs could be one way or the other. But for that we would probably need to stop actually enjoying life, which ultimately defeats the purpose of the entire exercise.
So instead of watching the scale, let us work with what mother nature has provided: 5 Gorgeous Body Types for us all to play with. Each one of these shapes celebrates the human form in its own unique way. Identify your shape from the one below and start dressing accordingly.
Classic Body Types (l-r): Hourglass, Apple, Rectangle, Pear and the V.
Keep in mind that each shape will need to adhere to its own rules in order to bring out its unique aesthetic. This is the true beauty of being human. No one shape is better than the other.
#3 Assemble the package
Now that you have identified your best face and how to dress for your body. It is time to package it all together into your unique personal style.
Remember, this is not about anyone else but you.
Once you understand what works for face & body, ONLY shop for items that continue to enhance your uniqueness.
If the latest trend does not flatter you, ignore it like it doesn’t even exist. When friends rave about fashions that you can’t wear, frown as if you are bored by the conversation.
Inversely, when the trends turn in your favour. By all means, spin around like an over excited puppy looking forward to a walk. And of course, when your friends make a face, smile quietly on the inside and keep it moving !
Et voilà, you have now cultivated your unique personal style.
French model Jeanne Damas demonstrates why staying true to your personal style is ultimately more interesting than following any fashion trend.